Over the past few days I have said the following words/phrases in perfectly normal conversation:
- ding-a-ling (a crazy person)
- cattywampus (crooked, out of place)
- yonder (over there a ways)
- feeder road (a road to merge on the highway)
Some of these might make sense to and some might not. I use some of these terms more frequently than others but a few phrases that don’t come out of my mouth as much they should are:
- I’m sorry.
- I was wrong.
- I made a mistake.
Those are usually tough things to say to someone because they always mean two things:
1. You’re about to be humbled.
(Notice: a lot of people speak about the value of pursuing humility but not as much about humility pursuing you). Luke 14:11 says, “For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” Sometimes humility finds you, whether you like it or not.
2. You messed up.
Nobody likes making a mistake, but you can tell a lot about a person by how they respond after making one.
What an Anti-Vax Mom Got Right
Earlier this year, the Washington Post ran a story about Canadian mom Tara Hills. Hills and her husband have seven children and were passionate anti-vaccine advocates until all seven of their children contracted pertussis, or whooping cough.
As Hills started to research further she learned how the study she was basing her skepticism on was in fact a debunked 1998 study that falsely linked the measles vaccine to autism. Both Canada and the U.S. have suffered large outbreaks of whooping cough and measles in recent years.
Her children were ordered to home confinement until their antibiotics were completed.
But that’s not why this mom’s story made the news. Plenty of other families feel the same way. It was her loud admission that she got it wrong that drew attention from people on both sides of this issue.
“I set out to prove that we were right,” Hills said, “and in the process found out how wrong we were.”
After years of getting it wrong, quite publicly in fact (Hills was a blogger in the anti-vax community) she boldly admitted what more of us need to: I got it wrong.
What Donald Trump Got Wrong
What the anti-vax mom got right, Donald Trump got wrong.
On November 22, 2015, presidential candidate Donald Trump appeared on ABC’s This Week with George Stephanopoulos. Among topics of discussion was Trump’s November 21, 2015 assertion that he witnessed footage on television of large crowd of Muslims in New Jersey celebrating the September 11th attacks.
Trump claimed “I watched thousands and thousands of people cheering as that building was coming down. Thousands of people were cheering.”
Stephanopoulos told Trump that Jersey City police at the time were aware of the rumor and investigated it proving it false. The rumors of said celebrations were traced back to an Internet claim that was also proved false.
Trump doubled down on his original claim and insisted further the he saw thousands of Muslims celebrating.
A simple Internet fact check proves his claim was incorrect and thus, a lie.
At best, Trump suffered from an exaggerated memory that stems from deciding to react to a tragedy with confidence instead of fear. It’s a noble trait but one that often produces false memories.
But almost fifteen years later, Trump has all the information he needs to respond honestly yet he refuses. He won’t do what the anti-vax mom did, admit he’s wrong and apologize.
It’s easy to point out others successes and failures in this arena but what about your life? What about mine?
I’m still learning to say those phrases. They sting. Often, humility is still pursuing me instead of the other way around but I’m trying to learn from mistakes and get better each day.
I never thought I’d say this but…